Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Chival-what?

What happened to chivalry? 

Maybe it's just the way I grew up, my dad was very old school Italian and made sure both of my older brothers knew what's up. I remember when we were young and my dad would get on my brother Brandon for not opening the door for his mother and sister. I got used to chairs being pulled out for me, doors opened for me, my oldest brother Mark won't even let me walk on the same side of the street that the cars are coming. 

Don't get me wrong, I don't NEED the door opened for me. Clearly I can do it for myself, however it's just one of those things that implies respect. It shows me that you are a gentleman and probably brought up right. It FOR SURE adds points fellas. 

But I guess if we want to be treated like a lady, we should probably act like one too. That includes 'thank you', 'bless you', your welcome, etc. I think a lady also includes showing a bit of chivalry yourself. I'm definitely the most polite person I know, other than my mom. This isn't ego, I make a point to be that way. I too was brought up by the same guy as my bros. I say 'thank you' and 'I'm sorry' and 'your welcome' more than any person I know. It's probably annoying at times, but I would rather be overly polite than be disrespectful in any light.  I open the door for people all the time, especially people who are older than me. Plain and simple, if I get to the door before you I will open it. Now, if we're on a date and I get the door and you just walk in without a thank you...we have problems. If I get to the door before you and open it and you don't take it...we got issues. I don't know maybe that's just me. But I can't help it. I totally think it was how I was raised, and it completely changes how the night goes on from there. These are very simple gestures that aren't very hard to do, but have a great impact. 

anyway, just wondering when being a gentleman went out of style..

2 Comments:

Blogger Martinis or Diaper Genies? said...

Hi Italian sister. Maybe you can teach me about manners. I'm the rudest.

following you now!

December 9, 2009 at 12:41 PM  
Blogger Emerson said...

never went out of style. Its just left unachknowledge, unappreaciated, and non-reciporcated that most men find it pointless.
For instance if we are walking to the car and I unlock your side and open the door for you ( assuming I dont have a wireless remote) the polite reciprocated thing to do would be reach arcoss and unlock my side...ooo how often that does not happen. The more we dont recieve it back the less we wont to do it.

December 13, 2009 at 11:18 PM  

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